We spend so much time caring about our outward appearance, while the inside withers away due to so many outside forces.
If you suppress your emotions, you will pay BIG TIME in other ways. The knock on can be avoided by emotionally decluttering.
The less you deal with issues as they arise, the more it piles up, and ultimately overwhelms you. When you fail to deal with things, they take up valuable headspace and nag you continually.
Eat The Frog
The best thing you can learn is to eat that frog! In simple terms, get the hardest thing for the day, out the way, first! Brian Tracy coined the phrase. He has an excellent book on the very subject. He shows you 21 ways to stop procrastinating and get more things done .. in less time. It’s a great read and inexpensive.
If you find you have this very issue, you can grab a copy here
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Have A Daily Routine
Procrastination is debilitating. No matter what is happening around you, if you can act rather than delay, you will find everything else will become a whole lot easier.
Every time you hit the pause button, you give yourself another thing to think about. You need to empty your mental inbox every single day. Whilst there are some things that require time and consideration, this should apply to the bigger decisions. You need to learn to make the smaller decisions quickly and decisively.
Don’t Put Things Off
The more that you let things mount up, the more they weigh you down. Imagine you are a balloon. Every unresolved thing in your world is a teeny tiny pin prick.
Within a short time, you will be a deflated mess. You need to get up every day and pump up your bubble. Your bubble will put a buffer between you and the outside world.
Make A List
Making Lists will also help you to get things done. When you write things down they go from being a thought to a goal. Don’t shove the list in a drawer, put it on the fridge where you can see it.
This will help to keep you on track. You can grab any number of printable Lists like the one above here
Be Kind To Yourself
How you keep your bubble pumped up depends on how you look after yourself. Good food, sleep, hydration, and exercise will all assist with helping you deal with life’s daily dilemmas. The more you look after yourself, the more you will be able to cope so put yourself first. Keep yourself clean.
Just as you shower daily, you need to wash away the daily grime. To do this successfully, you deal with the issues as they arise. Don’t put off tomorrow what you can do today!
“The minute you take responsibility for everything in your life is the time you can change anything in your life”
Why You Need To Be Accountable
Accountability equals responsibility and it’s the best gift you can give yourself! You need to make yourself accountable for all aspects of your life. Instead of looking for scapegoats and people to blame, remember .. you have free will. Everything you do, is of your own accord. Just as you can make decisions, you are really the only one who can make change. Others can tell you what to do but only you can implement it!
Once you take responsibility for your actions, you will find your decision making will be a lot more considered which brings us to our second suggestion – Living Consciously.
Why You Need To Live Consciously
Mostly we spend our lives on auto-pilot. As a result, we are not really taking the level of notice that is required to make good decisions.
When you take everything at face value and only half listen .. when you sign your life away without reading the terms, you are not only asking for trouble, you should expect it! If this sounds like you, chances are you are hopping from crises to crises and caught in a pattern of behavior that has you trapped.
Living Consciously is like eating consciously. If you are trying to lose weight, it’s amazing how the kilo’s melt away when you write down what you eat and count the calories .. the scales start reflecting your efforts, and very quickly too.
This will make you more productive than you imagined!
Every single action causes a reaction. If you tailgate someone on the road, you risk them slamming on their brakes. You could end up rear ending them. You were too close and you shouldn’t have put yourself or them in that situation. It’s not an accident, it was avoidable. Maybe you were zoned out while you were driving, maybe you were distracted.
There really is no excuse. If you were conscious and taking notice of your surroundings and your actions, you would have kept your distance and kept yourself safe.
When you live consciously you consider consequences prior to actions. You weigh things up and in doing so, you save yourself a whole lot of grief! Once you learn and implement this skill, an enormous amount of bad luck and drama will evaporate from your world! Infographic via ‘The Purpose Fairy’
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Just as you declutter your home from time to time, you should do the same with yourself. Everyone can benefit from a good old mental and emotional declutter and we’ve found 15 things that you can lose today, so that you have a better tomorrow.
1.Give up your need to always be right
If you have to win at all costs, if you can’t admit when you’re wrong, if you’d rather forget than forgive, you are holding yourself back enormously.
Remember you are what you surround yourself with so if you are always needing to be right, maybe it’s what and who is around you that is wrong! Try finding like-minded people that you can have more productive relationships with. The last thing you want in your life is continual tension and head butting. Life is too short!
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2. Give up your need for control
You can’t do it all! You need to delegate and trust others to help you out. How else will others rise to the occasion and feel that they are contributors if you do everything?
The less you allow others to be involved, the more you send the message that they are not up to the task. If you feel like everyone is dumping on you, it is you, not them. Mistakes are stepping stones in life not terminal!
3. Give up on Blame
When you trip over the vacuum cleaner don’t blame the person for leaving it out, blame yourself for not looking ..”When people are lame, they love to blame”
4.Give Up Your Self-Defeating Self-Talk
You are YOUnique! Stop wishing you were someone else, somewhere else. If you want those things, do something about it. No one got up by talking themselves down and don’t let others do it either. In order to love others, you need to at least like yourself.
Write down all the things you’re good at and ask friends and family members to tell you the things they like about you. You’ll be amazed at how differently they see you. Make yourself useful, don’t wallow in pity. There’s always someone doing it tougher than you!
5. Give Up Your Limiting Beliefs
There’s one letter difference between can and can’t. The truth is if you think you can or can’t, either way you’re right! Opportunities are created not born. If the door is closed, open the window because where there’s a will there’s a way!
6. Give Up Complaining
Complaining is draining and not just for your audience .. the last thing you want is people to avoid you because you are too negative. It’s contagious and that’s why you need to be very careful about who you allow into your inner circle.
You become what you surround yourself with so look for positive, upbeat people that see the glass half full. You will soon be that person if that’s who is around you! Source
7. Give Up The Luxury Of Criticism
When you criticize others, you are picking up on things in that person that must first exist in you. Criticism is debilitating and erodes self-worth. It’s easy to tear yourself and others down. What is to be gained by your comment.
Try and take the constructive route and think before you speak.
8. Give Up Your Need To Impress Others
Do you need to be popular? Do you need to be the love of everyone’s life? No you don’t! There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be liked but doing whatever it takes to be liked by the mob is a highway to nowhere. There will always be someone prettier, skinnier, younger .. there will never be another you so hold your head high and be true to you.
One good friend is far more valuable than hundreds of acquaintances!
9. Give Up Your Resistance To Change
We live in a progressive world and whilst change is uncomfortable, it’s also inevitable. If you do not embrace change, you will be left on the shelf and you’ll be missing out.
Imagine what you’d be missing out on if you didn’t learn how to use a computer or how to work your mobile phone. To resist change is like trying to block out the sun with one finger! Change for the right reasons, not just for the sake of it. Don’t fix what’s not broken but learn to roll with the punches. Change can be as good as a holiday!
10. Give Up Labels
What is it that everything we do or say has to have a label. An opinion is no longer an opinion, we are so quick to tell people what they are or not. We need to be accepting of each other. It’s easy to be fooled by labels. We are too quick to diagnose ourselves and others and put them into a category.
Keep an open mind and stop labeling everyone and everything. Life is bigger and better than that!
11. Give Up Your Fears
We are all scared of something. Maybe you have been hurt, loved and lost, been betrayed. What has happened in the past will only define your future if you allow it to. Don’t let past disappointments paralyze your potential. Don’t hold back because of past hurts. Fear is an unpleasant emotion that stems from danger, pain and harm. Be aware but don’t let it rule you.
12. Give Up Your Excuses
Could’ve, should’ve, would’ve .. if you want it bad enough, do it! You can be the person that wondered what happened or you can be the person that made it happen. Leave the excuses to others. Follow your leads in life until they fulfill or fizzle! Live with no regrets!
13. Give Up The Past
Are you hanging onto past relationships or situations? It’s one of the most debilitating things you can do and it will guarantee to stunt your growth. The past is the past, when it calls, don’t answer, it has no place in your future!
14. Give Up Attachment
Buddhists say ‘never own anything you couldn’t give up in a heartbeat’ – it’s a great mantra to live by. Worldly possessions are only that. They are here today but they can fade away in a moment. The more you desire and hang on to things, the more chance you have of losing them. It’s like money, if you chase it, it will always evade you. Let everything ebb and flow. If you chase your passions, the money will come. If you chase the money, you’ll never find your passions!
15. Stop Living To Others Expectations
It’s your life and you need to remember that. Stop trying to please others, you need to please yourself. The right people will fall in around you. Remember, only when you are being true to you will you attract those that can bring joy and value to your life.
It’s a two-way street, but a great life will be filled with cheerers not jeerers! The right people will love you warts and all! Finally, it’s the tree you planted yesterday that yields today. Put these ideas in place, PRONTO!