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I was having coffee with a group of Moms the other day when we were discussing Christmas and some of the traditions we have in our homes.
I mentioned how we put Santa Footprints on the floor and how the kids leave milk and cookies out for Santa and his Reindeers.
I was shocked when one of the Moms said that I was doing immense psychological damage to my children because I was deliberately lying to them.
She said I was setting them up for disappointment and when they found out the truth, they would be devastated and upset that I was dishonest. She said that I would end up with resentful kids.
She also said they would never believe anything I told them in the future. This has really upset me and now I don’t know what to do. I hadn’t considered it lying to the kids. I thought it was just some harmless fun!
I have two children, my son is 9 and my daughter is 7. It’s so close to Christmas and I feel terrible about breaking the news to them and am not even sure how to go about it. I am keen to hear if other parents agree with my friend’s comments and if so what I do.
I don’t know what to say to my children and any advice would be very welcome. Is there a time that I should break the news or do I wait until they ask me outright if Santa is real or not?
This has really worried me and I feel terrible. I love my kids with all my heart and would never do anything to intentionally hurt them. Please help. I’d love to hear other Parents stories so I know what to do. Thanks for your time, Cathy.
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