If you are constantly double booking yourself and finding that you are signing up to situations that you would rather not be in, you simply are not saying no enough.
People pleasing is a habit that needs to be broken. When you say yes to everyone else, you are putting yourself second. You need to learn how to be more discerning with your invitations so that you can have more time to do the things that you love.
We love this chart that we found on Fluent Land and it has 14 different ways that you can say no. If you are a soft touch, you may find yourself becoming a target for many.
It could be babysitting, working extra hours or continually being hit up for money. It may be sales people on the phone or in person.
Whatever the circumstance, if you obtain a reputation as a walk over, you will be treated like a doormat.
How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty Video
According to Dr. Susan Newman, people pleasers want everyone around them to be happy. And they will do whatever it takes to keep them that way. They put everyone else before themselves. Dr. Newman said, “for some, saying ‘yes’ is a habit.”
For others it’s almost an addiction, it makes them feel like they need to be needed. This makes them feel important and like they are contributing to someone else’s life. So here is what you can do to start saying “no” to others and say “yes” to yourself. Click Play above now ^