If you constantly double book and sign up to situations you would rather not be in, you may be suffering the disease to please.
When you say yes to everyone else, you are often saying no to yourself. It’s important to learn how to properly discern.The number one regret at the time of passing is that people wish they had the courage to live the life they wanted, not the one others expected! Does this sound like you?
Sharon Martin Counseling has outlined the basic traits of a People Pleaser. As you can see, the signs include putting others before yourself, avoiding conflict and doing things out of obligation.
If you are indecisive and you minimize your own feelings and needs, these are sure signs.
Emily Roberts from Healthy Place has created this excellent infographic that has 7 Strategies to stop people pleasing.
It is important that you sit and record the times that you have said ‘yes’ when you would rather say ‘no’. Consider the amount of guilt and apologizing that is involved too.
This infographic on Fluent Land has 14 ways you can say no. If you are a soft touch, you may find yourself becoming a target for many.
It could be babysitting, working extra hours or continually being hit up for money. It may be salespeople on the phone, or in person. Whatever the circumstance, if you obtain a reputation as a walkover, you will be treated like a doormat.
How To Stop People-Pleasing Video
According to Dr. Susan Newman, people pleasers want everyone around them to be happy. They put everyone else before themselves. Dr. Newman said, “for some, saying ‘yes’ is a habit.”
“For others, it’s an addiction, it makes them feel like they need to be needed. This makes them feel important and like they are contributing to someone else’s life.” This video has excellent info and we highly recommend you view. Click Play above to watch ^
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